The 04 Steps You Should Know To Perfect Your Children’s Education

David Kipre

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The premise of positive parenting is that children are born healthy and whole. It is a parenting philosophy that believes in a child’s potential while building on their strengths.

We have discovered through research in behavioral and brain science that the most effective method for eliminating misbehavior in a household is to focus on the positive behaviors that your children are engaging in and strengthen those behaviors through positive actions, compliments, and explanations, to develop what you wish to see more of them because children behave well when they are happy.

1- Control yourself

Your example speaks louder than any restrictions or rules you may impose on your child. You set the standard of conduct. It’s easy to get caught up in the little things kids do, but what you do is much more critical in the long run.

What it resembles:

Keep your room clean if you want your children to clean it. Do you want your child to show respect? Your actions and words should reflect respect for them. Listen to your child if you want them to listen to you.

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You must set an example of what you want your kids to follow. Seldom do we parents don’t want to get to their levels because we expect them too often to “already know” everything or to develop faster. They are asking you to think like them is quite possible, as an adult can feel like a kid but not the other way. Growth is a process, and you should not push them through it.

2- Teach your child

Teach your child

 

Far too often, children do not have the brains of adults when they are born to ignore, and they expect to do things without being taught. Your child’s primary teacher is you. Your child will learn to associate positive behavior with positive teaching methods that are engaging and positive.

What it resembles:

To convey that you are a helper, get down to the child’s level.

Redirect the child to demonstrate what they CAN accomplish.

Playing roles! Perform it in a fun and interesting way.

It is not about performing an act or a role-play about ‘’ I am the parent, you are the child ‘’ but to show them how life goes on outside of your family and how those behaviors might save them and be beneficial in the long term.

Plus, they won’t have to learn it when they‘re grown, so you’ll talk less about it. (Tell them)

3- Pay Attention to the Good

Finding and focusing on your children’s strengths is the most effective strategy for reducing problematic behavior in the home. Confidence, individuality, and trust are fostered by focusing on their strengths rather than their weaknesses. It creates a mind that thrives on good behavior.

What it resembles:

Talk about the kind of future you want. “Your brother is kind to you.”

Concentrate on the progress. “Wow, look at all your hard work!

Describe what you want to see. “When you stand right next to me in the store, I love it!”

4- Ignore the Negative

Ignore the Negative

 

94% of inappropriate actions have no effect. Behaviors that are inconvenient but do not cause lasting harm or destruction are referred to as inconsequential. Look through the noise to find something you want to strengthen, and then give that positive reinforcement instead of reinforcing those behaviors with your attention.

What it resembles:

A child marching up the stairs while yelling at their parent. “I appreciate you ascending the stairs.”

Begrudgingly, a child sits at the dinner table. “I am delighted that you are here with us.”

While another child plays quietly, it’s possible that the children are fighting. “Play with the happy child as you pass the fighters.”

Step 4 is often the most difficult to achieve, because of our stubbornness as parents to want to regulate all our children’s behaviors. The most important thing is to know that they need you as much as you need them and keep in mind that you too at their age, did not want what your parents told you to do. (Be honest, you sometimes said no in your head, to your parents too)

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