How to be a better parent to your children?

David Kipre

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” My parents are the best in the world ” ”My mom I love her, she is too perfect ”

” My dad is the King of the Universe; he is too strong!”

The happiness of a father or mother to hear their child exclaim in front of their friends. 

What version of yourself do you want to offer your children? Is it a frustrated parent on the verge of a nervous breakdown? Or is it a smiling parent, to whom your child can turn when he or she is having a hard time in life?

The answer is clear: “the best parent they can have” So, here are 4 tips that will help you become a better parent to your children! 

1- Tip #1: Praise your child’s personality, not their action

Your child takes out the trash one night, without you telling them. 

“You did a good job taking out the trash,” you compliment him. The child feels proud, but not proud enough, only praised for the action. Instead, say, “Wow, thanks for your help. You’re nice.” Not only will he be happier for having done you a favor, but he will also feel more valuable. Because kindness is a value that you will have indirectly taught him, and, in the future, he will do other tasks to feel even better. You increase his esteem and his importance in life in general.

2- Tip #2: Be the person you want your child to be

It’s better to do it right than to say it right. Telling your child, «Don’t do this, don’t do that,” doesn’t help because you are doing it yourself. Children learn faster by seeing than by listening. Adopt the attitude you want them to remember. Be the person you want them to be. 

For example, he brings you a bad grade from school? Please don’t yell at him; he’ll be frustrated. Instead, say, “Okay, I’ll go over it with you tonight over ice cream. The child will feel pampered, and the taste of ice cream will make him less stressed when you ask him about his grades, all in a playful tone.

3-Tip #3: Set values, not rules

Anyone subject to rules will rebel. It’s true, even if you don’t follow all the rules. Instead of being in the “my house, my rules” dynamic, try to explain to them why you think going home after school to change and go out is better than staying late. We often think that children don’t understand anything but take the test, and you’ll see that your children will have more interesting questions to ask you, and they’ll want to learn more about the rules you want to impose on them. In addition, they will have a space to discuss their thoughts without feeling judged or childish.

·4- Tip #4: Explain the bad behavior

While punishment is necessary to get your child back on track, they will go back to it if you don’t explain why their behavior is “bad.” Suppose you tell them their behavior has had specific adverse effects on those around them, people, and things they care about most. In that case, they will be able to know the next time that a particular type of behavior is wrong because others are the ones with problems. Try to tell them concretely, “when you do this, it creates such a problem for daddy, his little sister, etc.”. This is a behavior that will help you in the long run and will also teach them the consequences of their actions.

Above all, don’t forget to show your children love and affection and listen to their needs. Our loved ones also need to be cherished and valued; this is our absolute duty as parents.

Stay tuned this month for more tips and secrets to improve your parent-child relationship.

 

You can also read: Positive Punishment: 5 Miracle Methods To Put Your House In Order

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