Sexual communication is complex. Talking about your preferences, boundaries, and concerns in bed can make even the most confident person feel vulnerable and anxious. However, it's also essential for a satisfying and safe sexual experience, especially when it comes to giving and receiving feedback or criticism about your performance as a sexual partner. Whether you want to suggest a new position, address an issue with hygiene, or express your desires more clearly, there are ways to critique your partner without hurting their feelings or damaging your relationship. 

This article is your guide to giving sexy feedback, minus the sting. Get ready to transform those bedroom whispers into a recipe for a more passionate and fulfilling sex life together!

1. Positive Criticism: What is that?

First, it's important to remember that criticism doesn't have to mean criticism. Instead of framing your feedback as a negative judgment of your partner's skills or attributes, try to approach it as a positive suggestion or request for improvement that benefits both of you.

Positive criticism tips:

1. I prefer statements: Instead of saying, "You're not doing this right," say, "I like it when you do this, but I think it would be even better if you tried it this way." This way, you acknowledge your partner's effort and contribution and focus on the shared goal of enhancing your sexual experience.

2. I statements: Another tip is to use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. Instead of accusing your partner of doing something wrong or making you uncomfortable, express your feelings and needs. For example, instead of saying, "You're so selfish in bed," say, "I feel like I'm not getting enough attention or affection during sex, and I crave that from you." This way, you avoid blaming or shaming your partner and invite them to empathize and respond to your needs.

3. Choosing the right time: Choosing the right timing and setting for your critique is also essential. Don't bring up a sensitive topic or request right after or before sex when emotions can be heightened or tired. Instead, choose a neutral and private moment when both have enough time and energy to listen and respond calmly. You can also frame your feedback as a question or suggestion and invite your partner to dialogue.

For example, you can say, "I was thinking of trying this new position or toy. What do you think?" or "I've noticed that we don't talk much during sex. Is there anything you'd like to share with me?"

4. A little praise and appreciation: Balancing your critique with praise and gratitude is essential. Please don't make your partner feel like they're only doing things wrong or not meeting your expectations. Instead, acknowledge and celebrate what they do well and show gratitude and affection for their efforts. You can say, "I love it when you do this, you're so good at it," or "I'm so lucky to have you as my partner, you always make me feel loved and desired."

Another Tip

Of course, not all critiques can or should be resolved independently. You may need external resources or support to address specific issues or concerns. This is where Revolutionary can come in handy.

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